Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Losing Things


I am an exellent loser of things. I almost always leave things behind when I visit my mom or sister. I also lose things immediately after putting them down.

Today I came into the house after work and set down my purse. About a half hour later I couldn't find it. I'm supposed to put it in its regular place so that doesn't happen. But lately I've been forgetting to put it in its place.

Then there is the problem of not being able to find something because I put it in its proper place. Crazy.

On Sunday I ate at a restaurant, and I had a small knitting project with me. I am fairly certain I brought the knitting project home, but I have not been able to find it ever since leaving the restaurant. I even called, and they don't have it in their Lost and Found. It has to be somewhere in my house (I already searched the car). But where?

I have the opposite of sticky fingers. It's probably called Old Brain, but I am not yet ready to admit that.

Now, I'm going to go read my book. Where do you suppose it is??

Monday, March 19, 2012

Thankful for Helpers

I'm so thankful for other quilters who will help finish quilt tops. This week I am going to send off about 6 or 7 quilt tops for others to finish. This frees me up to make more tops (the love of my quilting life). What would I do without these helpers? I'd go crazy, that's what (or, crazier, I should say).

Here are some of the things I've created lately.

kids' fleece blankie to be donated with some others that a group at church made

made from blue scraps - will be sent to a machine quilter this week, for Wrap a Smile

scraps with purple, also for Wrap a Smile

misc blocks I made for fun and turned into a quilt for Wrap a Smile

block I made for Sunshine.. pattern is Arizona (with a modification on my part) by Carol Doak

small wall hanging made from scraps leftover from making the Arizona block

detail on above wall hanging

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Thoughts From My Heart

I once had a "boyfriend" for about 3 days. I am a white American girl of Scottish, Irish, English descent. He is/was a Native American, Anishinabe tribe (not sure I spelled that correctly). I met him on a church trip, going across country via bus to a Big City. I stole him from another girl. All my life I was always intrigued by the history and culture and languages and current lives of American Indians. That's why I stole him. (Give me a break-- I was a dorky teenager.)

When I got to college, I majored in French. Then, when I finally had time during my senior year to "play," I took as many anthropology courses as I could. Most of them were on the history and culture of Plains Indians. I absolutely loved those courses and wished I had discovered anthropology long before the end of my senior year.

Oh, well.. my life has turned out fine despite my silly major which never led me anywhere, except indirectly.

Turns out I married a partially Native guy, though he doesn't identify culturally with his heritage. My husband's grandmother was a Tlingit Indian from S.E. Alaska. The story I always heard is that she grew up in a Catholic orphanage. At one point it had burned down, so any records of her life and lineage went up in smoke!

Just in the last few years I discovered that she was not an orphan... she used to go home to visit her mother. So I surmised that she was of the generation of children who were taken/sent to boarding schools where they were taught to "be white." (Most children were either forced to go, or their parents realized they had no choice, so they sent the kids to these schools, far far from home.) Hubby's grandmother died when my husband was a kid, so there is no way I could ever have met her. But in retrospect she fascinates me, makes me a little sad, and I'm proud of her all at once.

She married an Irish miner and moved to Minnesota and raised a huge family here. They all knew about her heritage, but I don't think much of the culture was passed on, unfortunately.

summer school at Rosebud - adorable!

I have always tried to learn (mostly through reading) about Indian cultures. It's an interest of mine, but I am far from an expert. Please remember that I am speaking as a non-native person, as I see things from my white-girl life experience.

Anyway, in 2008 my church started sending small groups to Rosebud Reservation in South Dakota to help with the relief work that is done there through a group called Tree of Life. Tree of Life is doing excellent work, and it is always a very meaningful experience to volunteer there. This year's trip is the 5th annual trip!

The people on the Rosebud Reservation are Dakota people. You may know them as the Sioux, but that's not their real name. There are three groups of "Sioux" -- Dakota, Lakota, and Nakota. I'm not an expert on this at all, but I do know some of the history.. in my partial knowledge and with apologies for my ignorance, I'll just generically use the term Dakota. The Dakota people inhabited Minnesota in the old days. And, as every other tribe experienced, they also were pushed away by force and by tricks. At the end, there was a war... the Dakota people rose up in their last, desperate attempts to save their homes and culture. (Again, just about every tribe has a similar event.) After that war the Dakota people were forcibly removed from Minnesota, and our governor declared that henceforth Minnesota shall be free of all "Sioux" people.

In our work at Rosebud (and one year at Crow Creek) we have worked with descendants of those people who were kicked out of Minnesota. Humbling. Ironic. Sad. Nice.. to be able to form friendly alliances after all of that sad history.

What I see around me is the need for much more work. For some reason, Indians are still "the hated minority." No one would ever say that out loud, but from our behavior, that is the conclusion to draw. It's obvious.

Just try being a person who goes on these trips to Rosebud, and picture yourself talking about it to any old shmo on the street. Go into a bar, for example. Sit down and start talking about Indians to whoever is there. Guess what. It probably won't be a complimentary, favorable discussion. One has to tread lightly when deciding with whom to share the meaningful experiences of such a trip, and the hopes one has for further bridging of the enormous chasm that still exists between our people.

Here in Minnesota, just about every year, I hear grumbling and fussing about Indians who have fishing rights promised to them in a long-ago treaty.. giving them spearing rights and fishing rights at times outside of the Minnesota fishing season. Emotions can really get riled up over this. It always makes the news, and the coverage makes me cringe.

Then, try to talk about casinos. Expect to hear more grumblings and stories about Indians who have become rich off casino profits but "don't know how to deal with their money"! There's going to be more negative talk, I can just about guarantee it. For some reason, we will never let Indians succeed. That started way back. When white people first came here, we told Indians to learn English, learn to farm, learn our ways, and you'll be just fine. Many of them did just that, only to be lied to and forcibly removed, education and accomplishments be damned. That is STILL the attitude that one can find in our society -- easily. As I said, just start a conversation with any old shmo on the street. You'll find it.

Why is that? It seems it has never become politically incorrect to speak disrespectfully of Indians. It's still a group that it's "OK to hate." That really bothers and puzzles me.

To all of this, I know there are exceptions, but overall, this is the sense one gets in our white-dominated culture.

Now let me talk a bit about the work we do when we go to Rosebud. Believe me, almost every volunteer will question the work they are doing. Step back and look at the big picture: we come to a country which to us is new, but there are people who have lived here for thousands of years. To them, we are outsiders. Yet we decide it all should be ours, and we kill them, starve them, make them march thousands of miles through the snow, and force them onto reservations. Time passes, and most of us become rich. Then, out of the goodness of our hearts, we go to the reservation one week out of the year and help them paint their decrepit house. Oh, how heart-warming it is for us!



See? It's a struggle. And that issue is definitely present, in varying degrees, when we are working at Rosebud. One reason we love going there is because Tree of Life, the agency through which we work, has faced those issues head-on. They don't try to hide from the big questions. Instead, they have learned and grown and adapted to the needs of the people they serve, all the while learning about the culture and respecting it. The work is making a difference! We who have gone on the trips have seen progress with our own eyes! We can see and feel hope and friendly ties being forged, and can see the difference from year to year. It is palpable. It truly is heart-warming!

Well.. these are the thoughts from my heart. And it has been brought fresh to the forefront of my mind by watching a series on Netflix: "American Experience: We Shall Remain," a 5-part series on American history as seen from Native eyes. It is fascinating, heart-breaking, and very well done. I have watched the first 3 episodes and will probably finsih the last 2 in the next couple of days.

If you have stuck by me and read this whole post, I ask you: if you live in the USA, have you seen or felt the attitudes I talk about? Have you heard people grumbling or making sick jokes about Indians and casinos? Indians and alcholism? Do you agree that our over-all attitude here in America (in the white-dominated society) is still anti-Indian? Have you ever tried to speak up in defense of Indian people, tried to confront those attitudes? Tried to learn for yourself what modern day life is like for Indians? For many people, Indians are easy to ignore.

So.. I challenge you to learn something. Maybe start by watching this 5-part series of "American Experience: We Shall Remain." It's easily found at Netflix streaming. If you'd rather read a book, here's a great one: Neither Wolf Nor Dog by Kent Nerburn (a Minnesota author). Fabulous, fabulous book that hopefully will open up a part of your heart and mind that you didn't know was closed. If you do either of these things, I want to hear about it and your thoughts!! We can help each other learn.

a cultural lesson at Rosebud

Saturday, March 17, 2012

The Lost Shall be Found

I hope this Found Quilt will be returned to its owner from whom it has been separated... do you know anyone in Okalahoma who might be missing this quilt? It was found a year ago, in May 2011 in Oklahoma after tornadoes ripped through the area. It is being held at the Piedmont Service Center.


It makes my heart sad to see this quilt being orphaned. It was made with love by "Grammie" and includes names of 20 girls stitched in each block.. did Grammie have 20 granddaughters? Daughters and granddaughters? This was a quilt made with love for someone special. I hope some day we will hear that it is reunited with its owner.





Here is a link to the details:
http://quiltville.blogspot.com/2012/03/lost-quilts-found-quilts-spread-word.html

Friday, March 16, 2012

Friday Books: Glorious Day!



I finished Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. Great book! The great writing grabbed me from the get-go, and the second half of the book is even better.. riveting! Very interesting book about a person who is born and raised a girl, but at age 14 becomes a boy. This is because she/he was born with ambiguous gender identity. She's raised and feels very much like a girl until puberty hits.. then it gets confusing. This is something I have been curious about, and it was fascinating to learn more about it. Want a good, engrossing book that will take you a bit of time to read (it's over 500 pages)? Try Middlesex.

I am currently reading Two Rivers by T. Greenwood. This one will be quick. I'll have it done in a couple of days. I'll give you my report next week.

Today is gorgeous!!! I have the bedroom window open, and the cat is happy. He's sitting by the window, soaking up the fresh air and watching and listening to the birds twittering in the back yard. So refreshing.

I slept really late this morning and feel much better today. I'm hoping my "tireds" of the last few days will soon be a thing of the past.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Tired



Here's a hat I finished knitting, modeled by a teddy bear who thinks he's bigger than he is. I really like the colors in this yarn.

Other than some knitting, I have been working. Just a little bit of work every day has been wearing me out. I need to alter my work plan... which I have done in planning for my future hours. I hope that helps reduce my tiredness.

I also am trying to cut back on my Diet Coke consumption; I think this is contributing to my tired/groggy feelings. Hopefully I'll soon be used to my new normal. I don't want to continue being a Diet Coke guzzler for the rest of my life.

Tonight after work I was just too tired to attend a Lenten activity at church. Another reason I didn't go was the good book I'm reading, which I have mentioned before: Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. The second half of this book has been riveting. I can barely put the book down. So I bought myself some dinner and sat and read my book instead of going to church. Almost done now - I'm 93% through the book.

I'm hoping for renewed energy any day now!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Be the Change

Today I watched Dr. Phil. Guests were the 41-year-old male teacher and his new live-in girlfriend, his former student, who is 18. Barf! He left a 20-year marriage and three kids to move in with an 18 year old girl. Her mother is understandably outraged.

He claims they are in love and just "following their hearts." With language like that you know he is wooing this child with romantic ideas, not real life. What he wants, it seems, is fresh meat. After he's done using her up, he'll dump her, too. He's selfish, cruel, and dishonest. If he truly loves her, he would be willing to give her time to grow up and make a decision based on experience and self/world awareness. He has to know that at 18 her brain isn't even fully developed, and she does not have the capacity to understand long term consequences. She is being fooled and is playing house. He is satisfying his lust for youth and using her, big time.

Her mother sees this clearly, but because she's the mother, the daughter can't get past the mother-daughter thing to see that her mother is right. So there is big time tension. Who is taking care of this girl's need for protection? This idiot teacher should know better and should be put in jail.



Another thing happened: today I heard a statistic that a shelter here in St. Paul, MN, which helps women escaping from domestic violence, took in almost 1,000 women and children in 2011. 1,000 women and children in need of protection from domestic violence in little St. Paul!? That is an outrage. Probably more were turned away, because we all know these days, there are not enough shelters and safe houses for the enormous need. What a sad, sad state our society is in.

I don't have the answers. Right now I only have outrage. Somehow we need to educate our children... girls, so they learn to see the danger signs in relationships and learn to protect themselves, and to love themselves enough to avoid those pitfalls; boys so they no longer feel this need to control and "own" the girls and women in their lives, and love themselves enough to accept life's ups and downs without fear of losing their manhood. Picture this: boys and girls, men and women, all strong and secure in themselves to avoid falling into dangerous relationships. They all value the friendships and talents that everyone provides. Friendships and love relationships are built on trust, respect, and equality. We could close the shelters and trust that our neighbors and we ourselves would all be helping protect our children.

Dream world? Maybe... but it's what a lot of other dreamers have seen as possibilities: Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Jesus, Sojourner Truth, Jane Addams, Paul and Sheila Wellstone... I don't think it's too much to ask. Let's think about our own lives and how we can each make a difference with our neighbors, friends, co-workers, and those we meet along our daily journeys. Speak up, take a stand, defend children, challenge stereotypes. Maybe we can start to turn this around and create a better world.